How to Deal with Unwanted Thoughts

by Manal Ghosain on July 27, 2014

Woman Thinking

Thoughts are our constant companion.

Some thoughts are like passing clouds, we barely notice them before they drift away.

But other thoughts appear to have taken permanent residence in the chambers of our mysterious brain. Such thoughts run rampant, coloring our perception and shaping our attitude.

If they were supportive, motivating, or empowering that would be great. Unfortunately, most of the time, the thoughts are negative, limiting, and unhelpful. These are the types of thoughts that we don’t want, and try to avoid at all cost.

Thoughts become unwanted because of the emotional pain they create in their wake. Doubt, fear, insecurity, hesitation, resentment, sadness, or anger are all born out of thoughts—either as a byproduct of life experiences, or imagined situations.

Unwanted thoughts that are repetitive and negative are similar to negative and nagging people. No one likes to hang out with them.

And like an unwelcome guest, we try to get rid of these thoughts. But they stick around anyway. Ever tried one of the following techniques?

The things that don’t work in getting rid of unwanted thoughts

If you have a dominant unwanted thought pattern, think about it now. See if you’ve used these methods in the past.

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