Do you ever wake up feeling grumpy, angry, or annoyed without any specific reason?

It happens to me more than I’d like to admit. I wake up in a bad mood, and I can’t seem to shake it off. And from that point on, the feelings tend to get worse.

I don’t have a specific reason. I can’t blame the weather, or a deadline, or some physical ailment. It’s one of those days.

To make things more challenging, the bad mood can start later in the day. A dark cloud of negativity casts its shadow out of nowhere.

The feeling is like a wave of silent anger. It’s unpleasant physically and mentally (shallow breath, warmer body temperature, foggy mind). But the most powerful side effect is emotional—how it colors every experience and encounter.

What happens when agitation arises

Feeling agitated, angry, or frustrated is not bad in and of itself. It’s how we react to it that makes it more of a pain than it is.

I can sum up the pain of our reactivity in three stages.

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The Pain of “I Should” and How to Let Go of the “I Should” Mentality

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How often do you think you use I should? I should be doing this or that. I should be writing, or exercising. I should be thinking this way, or I should feel that way. I should think positively. I should feel happy. Shouldn’t is the negative form of should. I shouldn’t be scared, or I […]

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How to Handle Interruptions without Pushing Others Away or Resisting Life

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How to Deal with Unwanted Thoughts

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Curiosity: The Good, the Bad, and the Useless (How to Be Positively Curious)

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Have you ever met a child who wasn’t curious about something? Children make me think of curiosity as an innate tendency, or an evolutionary impulse, that is part of who we are. We all get curious about one thing or another (unless we’re in an apathetic emotional state). But sometimes our curiosity harms more than […]

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What Does Science Say about Fate, and How Can We Live with It?

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How much control do we have over our lives? Do we have a say in what happens to us, or are we bound by fate that’s set in the stars? Most religions proclaim fate as part of a divine plan that we need to take upon faith, without questioning the underlying reasons. Yet, we’re still […]

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Make Your Own Bible (or Book of Inspiration)

July 6, 2014

What inspires you? Do you feel you have a constant source of reflection and inspiration? Lately I’ve been feeling uninspired though I check a lot of positive articles, quotes, and images on different sites. I feel good for a moment or two, then it’s gone. And I’m back to my pattern of thinking. Nothing has […]

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