How to Deal with Rejection on Your Terms

by Manal Ghosain on September 15, 2014

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We’ve all experienced rejection in one form or another. As long as we’re living and breathing, rejection is unavoidable. Even if we live in isolation, we can still experience rejection.

Rejection is relational. We may reject ourselves, part of ourselves, or certain emotions and actions. We may also reject situations, or other people.

But the most common ego crushing rejection is usually experienced when others reject us. This is the main focus of the article—how to view and handle being rejected.

Rejection varies in intensity from a slight disappointment (being ignored on Facebook, or not being invited to a social gathering) to a major life altering situation (losing a job, ending a marriage, or losing a friend).

No matter how major or minor a rejection is there’s always an underlying feeling that we’ve failed, or we’re not good enough.

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