Do you ever wake up feeling grumpy, angry, or annoyed without any specific reason?
It happens to me more than I’d like to admit. I wake up in a bad mood, and I can’t seem to shake it off. And from that point on, the feelings tend to get worse.
I don’t have a specific reason. I can’t blame the weather, or a deadline, or some physical ailment. It’s one of those days.
To make things more challenging, the bad mood can start later in the day. A dark cloud of negativity casts its shadow out of nowhere.
The feeling is like a wave of silent anger. It’s unpleasant physically and mentally (shallow breath, warmer body temperature, foggy mind). But the most powerful side effect is emotional—how it colors every experience and encounter.
What happens when agitation arises
Feeling agitated, angry, or frustrated is not bad in and of itself. It’s how we react to it that makes it more of a pain than it is.
I can sum up the pain of our reactivity in three stages.