Mar 16
Feeling overwhelmed is like drowning in a sea of things to do and expectations to meet. We can’t keep our head above water.
The natural impulse most of us have in response to feeling overwhelmed is to freeze.
We stop in our tracks. We can’t seem to do anything. It is the exact opposite of rushing. When we allow ourselves to get overwhelmed by all of life’s demands, we turn to procrastination.
More days go by and more things pile up. The overwhelming cycle never ends and we continue to struggle.
Why do we feel overwhelmed?
In order to move forward, we need to understand how we got there in the first place. The feeling doesn’t happen overnight. It is a gradual process where things creep up on you until you feel you can’t handle it any more.
In my view, reaching this stage is the result of two factors.
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Feb 20
Photo courtesy of soupboy
There are situations where we continue to resist making a decision. The protective part of the brain is trying to keep the status quo.
What we don’t realize is: safety has a price.
The risk of a wrong decision is preferable to the terror of indecision. – Maimonides
The cost of indecision may not be easily quantified. But it is felt every time we are faced with the need to make a decision. Here is a personal example of the cost of indecision. Continue reading »
Feb 06
Yesterday I woke up feeling good and rested. I turned on my computer and noticed my wireless connection wasn’t on. Several attempts to re-establish a connection failed and with every attempt my frustration grew. I felt a wave of anger running through me faster than I could comprehend.
A darkness descended on me. I was ready to bitch and blame anything and everyone. I started looking around the room for more things to get mad about. I felt things were out of control and the only option for me was anger.
The speed with which my mood changed was scary. Part of me was trying to figure out what was happening inside my head. But the ingrained reactive behavior was faster and smarter.
My resistance to the feelings added insult to injury. There was this inner voice that kept telling me to take it easy, it’s just an internet connection and my behavior and feelings were not acceptable for someone working on being in a state of inner peace and calm.
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Feb 01
“This only is denied even to God: the power to undo the past. ~Agathon”
Don’t you wish there was an UNDO button to the actions you have taken just like the option in your word processor or photo editor?
You would think by now we would know that it is impossible to undo what’s done. Yet we spend so much time trying to work with the decisions we have made and actions we took knowing fair well that it’s not what we want to do at the moment.
How many times did you wear something you hated just because you bought it and feel you HAVE to use it?
How many times have you tried to use a tool that wasn’t suitable but you keep trying anyway?
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