Mar 09
A few days back, I read a very interesting article about people acting differently in order to fit in.
In my view, fitting in is a result of a person’s need to belong to something bigger than oneself.
Belonging is a need that grows.
The need for belonging starts with our family, our neighborhood, our city, state, country, creed and race.
As we grow our belonging grows with us to include education, colleagues at work, professional organizations, sports groups, social status, financial status…etc.
As belonging grows, the identification with it gets stronger. We crave acceptance and the privilege of being part of a select group.
We carry our family name. We become our profession. We identify with the roles of every group we belong to.
The thing with belonging is: it’s never ending. There is always something else you want to belong to. At the root of it is a need for validation. We feel more worthy when we become part of something. Continue reading »
Mar 05
How many times a day do you hear about the need to take action? If you want to get anything done, you have to take action. It is the key to improving any aspect of your life or making your dreams come true.
Motion is not necessarily action.
“There is nothing more frightful than ignorance in action.” ~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
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Feb 27
A lot of people feel trapped in a never ending barrage of things to do. Their to-do lists continue to expand regardless of how much gets accomplished. They are scrambling most of the time. A typical example is the working mom who has to get from her work to the kids’ soccer practice, then off to the ballet recital. Back home to cook dinner, ensure the kids do their homework, put the kids to bed and tidy up, then go to bed.
When you stop and think about it, do you really have to do any of that stuff?
One might say I have to provide for my family. I need food and a roof over my head. So I have to work to earn enough money, at least for the basics. After all I have to live.
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Feb 25
There is an innate tendency in us to repeat what we enjoy. Ever observe a child obsessing over the same Disney movie watching it over and over, or doing the same thing more than a hundred times a day just because it is fun?
As adults we tend to lose the enjoyable side of obsession. We associate it with compulsive or unwanted thoughts and emotions. Yet we obsess more than we realize. Our beliefs, desires, fears and attitudes are shaped by habitual thinking and feeling.
We can use this obsessive trait to our advantage. One definition of obsession is: the domination of one’s thoughts or feelings by a persistent idea, image, desire, etc.
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A few days back, I read a very interesting article about people acting differently in order to fit in.
