Mar 16
Feeling overwhelmed is like drowning in a sea of things to do and expectations to meet. We can’t keep our head above water.
The natural impulse most of us have in response to feeling overwhelmed is to freeze.
We stop in our tracks. We can’t seem to do anything. It is the exact opposite of rushing. When we allow ourselves to get overwhelmed by all of life’s demands, we turn to procrastination.
More days go by and more things pile up. The overwhelming cycle never ends and we continue to struggle.
Why do we feel overwhelmed?
In order to move forward, we need to understand how we got there in the first place. The feeling doesn’t happen overnight. It is a gradual process where things creep up on you until you feel you can’t handle it any more.
In my view, reaching this stage is the result of two factors.
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Mar 09
A few days back, I read a very interesting article about people acting differently in order to fit in.
In my view, fitting in is a result of a person’s need to belong to something bigger than oneself.
Belonging is a need that grows.
The need for belonging starts with our family, our neighborhood, our city, state, country, creed and race.
As we grow our belonging grows with us to include education, colleagues at work, professional organizations, sports groups, social status, financial status…etc.
As belonging grows, the identification with it gets stronger. We crave acceptance and the privilege of being part of a select group.
We carry our family name. We become our profession. We identify with the roles of every group we belong to.
The thing with belonging is: it’s never ending. There is always something else you want to belong to. At the root of it is a need for validation. We feel more worthy when we become part of something. Continue reading »
Mar 05
How many times a day do you hear about the need to take action? If you want to get anything done, you have to take action. It is the key to improving any aspect of your life or making your dreams come true.
Motion is not necessarily action.
“There is nothing more frightful than ignorance in action.” ~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
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Feb 27
A lot of people feel trapped in a never ending barrage of things to do. Their to-do lists continue to expand regardless of how much gets accomplished. They are scrambling most of the time. A typical example is the working mom who has to get from her work to the kids’ soccer practice, then off to the ballet recital. Back home to cook dinner, ensure the kids do their homework, put the kids to bed and tidy up, then go to bed.
When you stop and think about it, do you really have to do any of that stuff?
One might say I have to provide for my family. I need food and a roof over my head. So I have to work to earn enough money, at least for the basics. After all I have to live.
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